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As Mother’s Day is approaching and B turns two, I’m looking back on a few things I’ve learned in the last couple of years.
Life has definitely changed, and as most Moms say – I can’t imagine my life without her now and I love her to pieces!
Anyone who knows me knows I have a tendency to squeeze cute things….and my own child is no different 🙂
I think I could spend the better part of most days just giving her hugs and kisses!
So here are some things to remember as a parent: Relax. Talk. Laugh. Love.
Nothing is Perfect
I began to learn this lesson while studying for the bar, and realizing that certain things had to slide for a while (ahem, cleaning) in order to concentrate on what needed to be done (studying).
Well, parenting is no different.
Working all day leaves little time during the week spend one-on-one time with B, but that time I do get is so much more important than anything else.
So, relax just a little bit.
No, I’m not saying let your house be in shambles. But do think things through before you spend your only free time cleaning instead of spending that time with the kids.
You may not have the perfect house, but I’d rather know that I’m spending quality time with my kids.
They’re Listening! (So Talk to Them)
Even when you don’t think they are.
Especially when they act like they aren’t.
I’ll be doing something while B is off playing, or seems like she is in her own little world, and I just assume she isn’t paying attention to me or listening to what is going on.
Sure enough, later that day, or even a few days down the road, she pipes up with the exact same thing that was said earlier.
Although amazing that she’s listening and retaining so much, also somewhat scary! I remember thinking that you didn’t have to watch what you said around kids until they were at least 2. Boy was I wrong… I feel like right around her 1st birthday was when it became clear that she was paying attention to more than I ever imagined.
I try to take advantage of it, and talk about absolutely everything around her. I describe things and explain why we do or do not do certain things. I pick out some big words here and there and have her say them back to me, and we talk about what they mean.
She is a little sponge, and I’m doing my best to help her understand the world around her!
But also realizing that the time is quickly approaching when we will have to explain to her why certain things are not OK to say. That doesn’t really sound all that fun…
I’m Finally as Funny as I’ve Always Known
I know I’m lucky on this one. B has a great sense of humor.
We have the biggest giggle-fests over absolutely nothing. Or we run around the house saying “Boo!” and laughing hysterically. She has a hard time staying sad or upset, because she starts laughing at everything.
I mean, I am hilarious. But it’s nice to get that reinforcement 🙂
Yes, this will change, and sooner or later (most likely sooner than I’m ready for) she will look at me like I’m just crazy, and not crazy-funny.
For now, I’m going to cherish this, and do my best to continue to make her laugh.
Laugh with your kids. They want you to be happy too, and having a good time with them shows them that they matter.
The Little Things Matter the Most
B’s birthday was last week. Dad was at work, and mom had to go to work. So, the celebration with mom and dad got pushed to Saturday. (Also in part because her birthday present didn’t make it on time… nice pre-planning mom!)
I didn’t want the morning to rush by without some sort of special treat for the birthday girl, so she had a nice big balloon waiting for her when she woke up.
I know, I know. Not the present of the century, but hey, she’s 2!
And you know what?
She. Loved. It.
I wish we could all be so happy with just a balloon! But really, she was so excited about the balloon, and had the biggest grin on her face that it was just for her.
So remember that – not everything has to be huge or extravagant. Something as simple as a balloon can bring a smile to their precious little faces.
They Love You
Really, they do.
Even when you’re the reason they are crying and upset. You are still the one that is there to comfort them and make them feel better.
When B gets in trouble for not listening, or ends up making a choice she ultimately decides wasn’t what she really wanted and we end up in a meltdown, she still stands there, and through her tears says she “wants her Mommy.”
At this point, you’re everything to them. And with how hard life can get, I always want her to know that she can come running to me when she needs support.
Show them how much they mean to you. Slow down, give them a hug, and make sure they know how much you love them too.
Everyone Turns into a “Mom”
I never wanted it to happen. But then it does.
I have found myself (on more than one occasion) licking my finger and cleaning off her face.
Yep. I’m that Mom.
I remember distinctly HATING it when my mom did that to me as a kid. I swore up and down I would never do it.
And then, getting out of the car to go somewhere, I look at her with food all over her face. She can’t go inside like that! So, I do it. And she winces. Because, let’s face it…It’s gross.
So here I am, officially a Mom.
But hey, kids need a Mom! So be that Mom and does what Moms do, even if they squirm. It’s good for them 🙂
Cheers to all the Moms out there, no matter what stage of motherhood you’re in. You all deserve props for making it through each day, and turning these kids into productive members of society!